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Posted: Tuesday, April 21, 2015 9:38 AM


“SUBCONSIOUSLY you have been programmed to Fail".

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Have you ever ask yourself…this question.

“Why did I attract this person into my life?”

I know your time is valuable, so I’ll get straight to the point:

The answer is surprisingly simple…and has everything to do with YOU and your SUBCONSCIOUS MIND.

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Your subconscious mind has what are called “unconscious polarized issues” that are “Anchor beliefs” coming from your childhood.

These subconscious ‘programs’ and your husband/partner’s alcoholism are like magnets attracting each other...

...And strangely enough...BY resolving these (your) SUBCONSCIOUS issues…it is exactly what is needed to ‘heal’ your self, possibly your partner and overcome your current relationship issues…

Understand this and you are on the road to Personal Freedom.


• My worthiness feelings about myself stem from receiving approval from someone else
• Other people’s struggles affect my tranquility
• My mental attention focuses on solving others problems/relieving others pain
• My good feelings (about myself) developed from being liked by someone else
• My mental attention is focused on others
• My fear of others anger controls what I say or do
• My psychological attention is focused on manipulating others to do it my way
• Relieving others pain reinforces my self-esteem
• My own hobbies/interests are put to one side for other people
• My timetable is spent sharing others hobbies/interests
• Others clothing and personal appearance are dictated by my desires and I feel others are a reflection of myself
• Others behavior is dictated by my wishes and I feel others are a image of me
• My emotional attention is focused on protecting others
• I am not aware of my feeling deep inside
• Solving others problems bolsters my self-esteem
• I am aware of how others feel.
• I am not conscious of what I want
• I ask what others want.
• I assume the aspirations I have for my future are linked to others
• My fears of rejection governs what I say or do
• I use charitable acts as a way of feeling safe in my relationships
• I put my personal values aside in order to connect with others
• I value others opinion and others ways of doing things more than my own
• The worth of my life is in relation to the quality of others

If these sounds anything like you…then you’re likely codependent.

Codependency is not a disease, it is an emotional and behavioral condition that is learned and then stored in the subconscious…it affects your ability to have a healthy relationship with others.

Codependents generally are in (or develop) emotionally destructive relationships that are one-sided; pleasing oriented and therefore become abusive.

Many Psychotherapists now call codependency: “A Relationship Addiction”.

Codependency can also manifest as Love Addiction, Avoidant or Dependent Personality Disorder or Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.

There is a CURE.

You may not-yet-have-experienced…


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Getting separated is challenging. Getting fresh is challenging. Getting both fresh and separated is absolutely painful! Yet, some people make it. If done for the right factors, restoration from this "double whammy" can cause to a new and enjoyable lifestyle. I know from knowledge.

Let's take first elements first, which indicates getting fresh first. There can be no logical selections, audio considering, or good perspective while one is high or under the effect. A affordable interval of sobriety is a must before essential selections can be made.

So what does getting fresh mean? And what does it take? Every customer must ask him or herself the concern, "Am I addicted?" (FACT: The material can be alcohol addiction beverages, drugs, or any feelings changing chemical type that is assimilated into the body). How does one reply that question? The professionals recommend a lot of solutions, including a specific research of personal routines and styles of conduct to "If you think you might be one, you probably are." Individually, I think that when someone constantly use in the experience of adverse repercussions, one is based mostly. If a personal actually solutions "yes" to "Does using cause me difficulties?" and "no" to "Can I really end when I want to," in my perspective, that personal is based mostly.

Please please be aware my focus on the term "honestly." Much like oil and water, loyalty cannot exist together with "denial," the quality of addicting disorder. And now for the kicker..... If a personal is based mostly, refusal shoes in; if a personal doesn't have refusal, the person is not addicted! Therein is the hook 22..........unless one can take benefits of what the restoration lifestyle calls the "window of opportunity" which sometimes shows itself throughout the addicting routine. For a wide range of factors, the abuser goes through short lived times of understanding, acknowledging he has a issue, needs help, and can't do it alone. This "window," when on the surface created, often requires the kind of a law enforcement detain for a DUI or other incorrect conduct, job malfunction, economical damage, serious healthcare research, desertion by loved ones. The "bottoming out" practical knowledge, as it is known as, is unfortunately the excessive that many lovers must arrive at to get the "reality have a look at."

The non permanent break up from the compulsion and associated refusal can pay for the abuser the brief chance to phase up and get help. And easily, before the warm is off, making the home start for refusal to set in once again. A tip-off that the ability has handed down can be observed in feedback such as "Yeah, I could end if I really want to, but I don't want to," or "I can consume culturally, or use recreationally."

If you are like me, you'll do anything before recognizing to being absolutely hooked. I tried it all: will energy, psychiatric therapy, psychotropic drugs, aversion treatments, shout treatments, EST, faith, to name but a few. Lastly, my smallest and greatest times came when I missing everything to the compulsion, lastly said that I was helpless against alcohol addiction beverages and drugs. I discovered that providing up an compulsion is not depending on will energy. For me, it was centered on a lifestyle responsibility to Alcoholic Anonymous' 12 phase software. I'm here (fortunately) to tell you that I'm not only retrieving, but I'm a much better and more happy personal now than I was before I began using!

So, what does all this have to do with divorce? PLENTY! The compulsion may have triggered the wedding issues, or wedding issues may have frustrated the compulsion. It doesn't really issue. What does depend is the terrible circle that compulsion and wedding issues cause. The abuser becomes separated and exacerbated of anything that effects his using. He becomes taken, fake, harassing, and inventive. The adverse repercussions of abusing drugs are attributed on the "stresses of wedding," and the "burdensome" loved ones becomes the scapegoat. The partner, in convert, becomes exacerbated and vulnerable, questioning what he/she did incorrect, and how elements can be renewed to the way they were before (the co-dependent dance). The partner has the decision of making it possible for the abuser further, or growing the wedding issue to carry it to a shut. In either situation, the abuser seems validated in using more. Both couple get more anxious and exacerbated, and often one of the couples allows go. This turmoil again increases the compulsion.

I was provided break up and divorce documents in a psychological healthcare where I was being taken care of for depressive disorder. So, not only had I missing my pharmaceutical, I now missing my family! It was too much. I required peace in the consume. The compulsion grows on inner information such as, "Just when I required her the most, she actually leaves," "I'm a bum, and she should get better," and "What about the kids?"

This situation is typical, but the versions are countless. One thing continues to be constant: the wedding only supports second place to the pharmaceutical, and all shut relatives are influenced and ill. Essentially, restoration is best performed with the engagement of shut relatives, although many go it alone and be successful. For my wedding, unfortunately, it was too overdue. For my kids, our ties have increased. For people, I go at it one day at a time.

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